Surely God’s Love is worth any love. – St Josemaria Escriva
Writing this on my phone, as I am trying to avoid the temptation to blag from my work devices. I have been meaning to update as my brain has been Doing That Thing Again ™ which sometimes culminates in thoughts worth sharing.
We’ll see what actually makes it, as phone clacking is not the ideal way to write thoughtful posts. I beg your forgiveness for typos or other oddities.
Spirit and Letter
I was thinking about the incarnation of Christ and comparing his “first coming” with his second.
I tend to think of Christ as a “surprising” figure, like the punchline to a joke. Everyone believed He would come in one way, and he came in another, yet without undermining the accuracy of the prophets. Where did this misunderstanding come from? Setting aside “God having a sense of humor”, it came from US. We interpreted the proohecies in a way that was favorable to us in an earthly way. And Christ surprised us because he said all the law and the prophets pointed to NEW HEARTS and not NEW LAWS. He said the Spirit of the law, in other words, more than the Letter was the key thing. And the Pharisees were undone by their fixation on the letter.
Would Christ come at the eschaton and surprise us in the same way? I dont think so. I think we were incapable of grasping what faith requires of us without the Holy Spirit, and with the Holy Spirit there is no need to be coy. He told us exactly what he would be doing, and withheld only WHEN it would happen.
In other words, there will be no surprises at the end. And thats a consolation really. No mystery. No “i wonder how I did on the test”. We all know. And He knows too.
But here’s the thing, and this is an innovation my friend offered when I discussed this with him. We have, collectively, swung to the opposite extreme. I say collectively and “we” inclusive regarding Modern Humans more than Catholics. I am sure Catholics fall prey to this too but anyway, the headline: we are in an age of Spirit and not Letter. Protestants reject the Law, prefering merely the spirit. Bizarro Pharisees, reducing God to vibes. We need the law too. We cant good-vibes our way to heaven, we do in fact need specific and actionable steps. We need sacraments. We need the law as a measure of the extent to which we bring it into our hearts. We cant fake the “heart”—God is he from whom no secret is hid; God is he to whom we ask blessings for those present at the Mass “whose faith and devotion are known to you”.
And i think this abuse of the “spirit” of christianity is why His second coming is described in revelation as The Great Day of His Wrath. Why would he have Wrath if we were all here vibing? I think its the abuse if the name “Christian”. We need the Letter of the Law, and we need the Spirit. The classic, Catholic, both/and.
Speaking Of Wrath
I have been in need of confession and so my thoughts have been dark, as I try to stave off my various species of despair.
I was recently counseled that I am too hard on myself. I tend to extremes: when I am good I am good. When I am not good I am the worst. This slingshotting back and forth between extremes is unhealthy and unhelpful. I need a framework to help me climb out of it.
What I have settled on is that there must be a gradation of God’s wrath. I dont know if the church teaches anything about this but where the Church and my blog disagree, prefer the Church because I never do research before I post.
Imagine a child. The child misbehaves. It is both—BOTH!—normal for the child to misbehave AND something that requires correction. Sin is BOTH normal to the human condition and something we must fight against. God obviously knows all context of our lives, our traumas, what we have been taught well and taught badly. So for an otherwise devoted Catholic, surely God must correct them as a parent lovingly corrects a child. This does not abrogate consequences—mortal sin is mortal sin, and breaking Moms China Vase is still bad even if it was unintended. But there is a distinct difference between being hapless and being willful. Throwing Moms China Vase through the window is an act of rebellion and is dealt with differently. Even being peristently hapless loses its charm after a while and demands a stronger response.
Hell is real and people go there, but I think I ought not ruminate so much on how if I die I will go to hell, and instead meditate on trust that God will not permit someone so sincere, yet sincerely foolish, to die an unprovided death. The sacraments are a MERCY and an expression of God’s love, and their proximity should be a balm and not a stressor. It should be “ah, forgive me Lord, and confession is only a week away!” And not “I hope i dont die before next week”.
To the outwardly rebellious: the heretics and determined and willful sinners, the proliferation of sacraments begins to count against them. “Confession was how frequently offered and yet you refused and remained obstinate?”
The Great Day of His Wrath will be preceded by a penance service in the hills, and those who remain will cry out to the mountains to “fall on us”..,
God As Father
I forget if I have discussed a fruitful conversation about parenting.
My friend offered these three laws for parents to relate to their children:
- “I love you”
- “You cannot change THAT I love you”
- “You cannot change HOW I love you”
A child must know he is loved, if a child makes a bad choice he must know that he is loved through it. Parents who disown their kids run afoul of this second rule. A child must know that if he makes a bad choice he cannot force his parents to accept it; parents who enable their kids bad decisions run afoul of this third rule.
It finally occurred to me that God loves ME this way. And you. All of us.
God loves me. This is a cliche, and very often the discussion ends here. But when I sin, I do not change THAT God loves me. God doesn’t disown me when I sin. God loves me even while I sin. But I cannot make God accept my sin, for I cannot change HOW God loves me. I must repent of my error, God will not change His law for me.
This is something I need to meditate on more, as I often find myself in despair after sinning for feeling I am no longer loved or lovable. Every confession feels like trying to convince an ex to take you back, “this time itll be different!”
But thats not what Confession is, not exactly. The love isnt dead and gone—I have walked away from God, I am a prodigal son sleeping in the mud. I can come back any day, and my love and His divine Love are re-united.
Related to this idea is the idea that God’s love is not for humanity, collectively, but for ME specifically. And YOU. All of us, as individuals. I am not diminishing Gods love for someone else by reuniting after confession; Gods love multiplies.
In Prayer, i ought to talk to God as if I have his undivided love and attention, the way a child might demand his parents love and attention. And they give it freely, because what could be better than to hear your child tell you what he needs? Our prayers are a delight to a loving God who is calling us to Him and wants to help us find the right path.
When they say God is Love—this is what it means, I think.
AMDG, with Love